The Ring 2
Posted by Isabel on March 14th, 2006. Filed under: I Rock.I have this one weird thing. Okay, I have more than one. But I’m only going to tell you about this specific one today. Maybe I’ll tell you about more later on in this relationship. Maybe.
I don’t like to put the trash in the trash chute in our apartment. Don’t like it at all. Why, you ask? It isn’t for the reasons you are probably thinking. Nope it isn’t because it stinks (which it does) and it isn’t because of all the germs (there are lots of germs, and I’m sure to wash my hands when I’m done). It isn’t even the fact that I have to get up off the couch to take the trash out. Nope, it’s because I’m afraid my wedding ring will fall off my finger and into the chute. Never to be found again.
Something like this has never happened to me. I’ve never lost my wedding ring, or misplaced it. Not even for a second. My ring isn’t too big. It’s the perfect size. (Except for when I’m pregnant-because apparently now I have sausages for fingers. Which is not sexy).
It’s just this fear I have.
I also can’t walk over street grates outside for the same reason. I’m afraid my wedding ring will just spontaneously fall off my finger and into the street grate. Again, never to be found.
Is this a normal fear that others share? Or am I alone in this one? And if you don’t have this fear, what fear do you have?
(And what does this fear mean? Is it something deep like I’m afraid I’ll lose The King. Or just that I know we couldn’t really afford to get me another ring if I lost this one? Any ideas?)
March 14th, 2006 at 9:40 am
I am terrified that my diamond will fall out of its setting. Its not a particularly big rock, and it’s certainly not loose, but i check to make sure it’s still there at least 12 times a day. Weird!
I’m also afraid of movie theaters but thats a whole other story.
March 14th, 2006 at 10:12 am
I get very nervous around certain heights because I am afraid my sunglasses will fly off my head. Especially bridges over rivers. It’s not the height, it’s the potential loss of my sunglasses. They are awesome and I might actually cry if they fell into some river. I always hold them very tightly against my head or face when I look down off a bridge.
On an interesting side note, my husband actually lost his wedding band in a river. No joke. It was a bit too big, and the water was cold, so his finger shrunk or something. He didn’t even have it 3 months. Now he wears a cheap sterling silver thing and it’s stuck around for almost 4 years. Go figure.
March 14th, 2006 at 10:31 am
Whenever I go to amusement parks, and I go on the rides, I always try to hold on to my necklace, and keep my left hand in a fist, because I’m afraid my necklace will fall off, or that my ring that my boyfriend got me will fall off.
I think the reason we do that, is because it’s something that means so much to us, that we would be devistated if we ever lost it. And not to mention all those sitcoms where something like that happens.
March 14th, 2006 at 11:37 am
I think that is a totally reasonable unreasonable fear, if that makes sense.
I say that because I seem to have this anxiety that when Andrew was proposing to me, on a bridge over a river, that the ring SHOULD have fallen over into the water or something. Of course, I wasn’t worried about this at the time, and now that it’s over it CAN’T POSSIBLY happen now, but I still have this worry about it. Is that totally weird?
March 14th, 2006 at 11:38 am
dont do it then, because i like it. i like it a lot. its one of the best features of the apartment.
March 14th, 2006 at 11:40 am
I should tag you for the “6 weird things” post I just had to do.
March 14th, 2006 at 12:29 pm
I always think that those grates on sidewalks…ya know…that lead to places beneath the ground…will suddenly collapse when I walk on them and I will plunge into the depths below and NO ONE will see me fall and I will be stuck there for a looonnnggg time.
I always ALWAYS walk around them!
March 14th, 2006 at 1:42 pm
I am deathly terrified of canned biscuits. Not the comsumption…
just opening them.
I am also paranoid that when I am standing in line for a roller coaster, someone who is already on the ride will vomit on me.
And last, but not least, I am scared of white pants because when I was in 3rd grade, I wore white pants to school and went down the slide only to spend the rest of the day being laughed at for having dirt on my tooshie.
March 14th, 2006 at 1:56 pm
I’m scared that one day my rings will just be gone. Like I took them off and put them somewhere but can’t for the life of me remember where and they are gone, gone, gone, and I LOVE my wedding rings!
My other biggest fear is driving across bridges with water under them. It’s not the height thing, I’m fine with heights, it’s the OMG what if I pass out or completely lose control of the car and we go over and fall into the water and can’t get out of the car and die. I’m fine if someone else is driving. It’s like I trust everyone else to be able to handle this situation except for myself.
March 14th, 2006 at 2:49 pm
Ok, I wanna talk about a weird fear I have now, lol.
I’m terrified of unlocked doors. When I’m at home, I always lock the door right as I come inside, or when I’m driving, I always make sure the doors are locked. I’m scared if I don’t, then someone will try and get me. I also ALWAYS check the backseat when I get in my car…
March 14th, 2006 at 5:28 pm
I have some similar fears. Like Jessica, I am afraid the diamond will fall out of my ring…so much that I usually only wear my wedding band.
March 14th, 2006 at 5:37 pm
I’m afraid of clowns. And of sneaky clowns hiding in sewer/street grates. Because have you seen “It?” Ok, then. Also! You could just wear gloves all of the time! You know, to protect The Sparkly. Works for Diane Keaton.
Brittany-I saw that happen! Your rollercoaster fear, I mean. Thankfully I was far enough away that I didn’t get doused. They had to stop the ride, deboard the passengers and rinse the Ring of Fire with a hose before people reboarded. I don’t know what’s more disturbing/gross: the fact that someone through up, mid-upside down hang, or that people were anxious to reboard, after they only rinsed the ride with (no soap, only)water.
March 14th, 2006 at 9:01 pm
The setting on my first ring broke and lost the stone. I am so paranoid about this ring that everytime I so much as catch it on some fabric, I obsessively check it.
When I used to wear glasses, I would never look down into anything, like, say, the alligator tank, or the water from on board a boat. I just knew they were gonna fall off my face and be gone forever.
March 14th, 2006 at 11:57 pm
I think your fear means you don’t believe that you deserve the life that you have, so you are terrified that something could take it away. I think the losing of the wedding ring is symbolic for something you don’t think you deserve, and can’t make sense out of, but you’re pretty sure you don’t deserve it. But that’s just me.
March 15th, 2006 at 4:49 am
I find i am always looking at my diamond too. Cause I’m always, smacking my hand into something and I’m convinced that I have it loose and it’ll fall out on me. But it’s still there, day after day, look after look.lol.
The boys name I picked is: Nolan Micheal. Other names i like are Ethan, Evan, Avery, and Aiden. Hope you get a name soon, i’m still hitting my head looking for one
March 15th, 2006 at 6:00 am
I’m afraid that I’ll lose my ring into one of those big blue mailboxes when I drop my mail in. I sometimes even take my ring off before I drop in mail to prevent it. My ring fits well too and has never fallen off. It’s just a weird fear.
March 15th, 2006 at 7:01 am
I think everyone has fears that seem perfectly rational to the person who has them. I’m always afraid that I’ll lose my rings, but I also won’t stop the car on an expansion joint in a bridge (could get split in 2 if the bridge fails) and I duck when we pass the airport and a plane passes over.
March 15th, 2006 at 7:41 am
I’m scared of many of the same things as the women who commented before me.
Clowns? ICKY! (Also, the Easter Bunny, Mimes, etc…)
I HAVE to have all my doors and windows locked. I’m deathly afraid of someone coming into my house.
I have a bunch of tiny diamonds around the solataire and I’m afraid they’re going to fall out, mostly because because one DID fall out while it was being cleaned at the jewelers.
Oh, and when my best friend’s fianace proposed to her on a pier over the bay, he had a FAKE RING THAT HE DROPPED INTO THE WATER!!! She freaked out, then he brought out the real thing. So mean.
March 15th, 2006 at 9:39 am
Jeff proposed to me on a yacht in the San Francisco Bay outside on the deck. I always wonder, what if the ring had fallen overboard? How awful.
I think I’m always going to be afraid to drop my baby. Going down stairs, in the shower (that’s the worst, because they get so slippery!), you name it.
March 15th, 2006 at 3:45 pm
I had to have our wedding rings shipped to me. I specifically asked Fed Ex how they shipped things to my then-office (HQ of a Very Big Famous Company). I was completely terrified that the rings would be lost in the mail or stolen.
Of course the local fed ed people told me the wrong thing, so I called all the wrong people and confused the hell out of them by asking them to call me immediately when my package arrived because it contained my wedding ring.
This was made even more confusing since I’d only been with the company for a month at the time.
Fortunately, the main HQ receptionist thought the whole thing was extremely funny, and she wanted to see the lesbian wedding rings (they looked like any other nice diamond-set wedding rings), so she tracked them down when I started freaking out.
March 16th, 2006 at 8:02 am
I am afraid to walk over street grates, but not becuase I think my jewelry will fall in. I am scared that *I* will fall in!