Another step closer to being one of Those MomsJune 27th, 2006 @ 7:11 am
My younger, more self-absorbed self used to go to the beach or the water park in my little bikini and my tanned body and totally judge Those Moms.
You know the ones. They are too busy splashing with their rugrats in the water to be embarrassed about how they looked in a swimming suit. They didn’t care that their thighs were dimply or that their boobies didn’t really fit into the suit. They didn’t seem to notice that their belly was saggy. No, all they seemed to care about were their bratty kids.
This, I did not understand. I wasn’t sure how they could walk around in public like that. I mean, why didn’t they just stay at home? Who would even think about putting on a swimming suit when they looked like that? Why not just stay at home, with your kid, and cover the heck up?
Fast forward about ten years to me being a Mom. A Mom who took their baby to the pool for the first time last night. And didn’t even think about how I looked.
All I cared about was how freaking cute Babboo looked in his little suit, and how much he loved being in the warm water. I was too worried about making sure The King didn’t take him in the deep end to care that the younger, much cooler people there were probably judging me.
We got out of the water, upon which Babboo decided to take a pee on my leg. I didn’t even care. Hey, my leg is naked. It’s cool, pee away. We dried off and started to walk back into our building. The King was all shocked and horrified, aren’t you going to cover up before we go inside?
Cover up this totally hot 2-month postpartum body?
Oh yeah, right. I forgot. I totally need to cover up. See, I was just too busy being a Mom to care.
Is this a good thing? Have I forgotten to worry about how I look? Do I need to buy more tankini’s? Or, gasp, a one piece?
Or do I need to just forget about it and spend even more time in the pool? Because, damn, it was a blast last night.
My Sweet Babboo
H. Squirrel
said,
June 27, 2006 at 4:14 pm
Fuck it. You looked fabulous. I’m sure of it. I’m sure all eyes were either on your big beautiful smile or the Sweet Babboo.
Frema
said,
June 27, 2006 at 4:57 pm
I’m sure everyone was like, “Hot damn, there goes one fine MILF.”
king
said,
June 27, 2006 at 5:10 pm
hey, kids. i know its fun to sound all rated “r” and street and all by using a few expletives now and then. its even considered sexy in places where missing teeth is the norm. however, i plead with you to refrain in this forum, as my work internet blocks websites which use such lingo, and i wont be able to read what is going on in the lives of my wife and child.* (be creative. but don’t flat out cuss.)
*…which account i’m finding to be semi-fictional and in need of some clarification. i did not imply that isabel’s body was in need of covering at the pool last night. in fact, i saw her in a bathing suit on sunday, and popped a huge boner. and she knows it.
Amy
said,
June 27, 2006 at 5:24 pm
I say don’t worry so much about how you look as long as you’re having a good time. Life is too short to worry about appearances. Thank goodness for capri pants because I don’t get to shave my legs as often as I would like. That would cut into my having-fun-with-my-babies time!
Britt
said,
June 27, 2006 at 5:33 pm
Oh! King!!! Too much information! I’m glad you’re functional, though!
Hilary
said,
June 27, 2006 at 5:50 pm
Furgetaboutit. If peope do judge you (and they probably weren’t) then they will also one day become a mom and be in the same shoes you are in. I know people I used to look at and think “Gosh, I hope I never get that big/fat,” now…..they look pretty darn good to me. That’s why I try my best not to judge b/c I can’t stand it when people judge me. It’s all about growing up.
OH, and just be thankful you can still pull off a two piece. After my two kids, this fab bod will be in a one piece for the rest of my days.
Jezer
said,
June 27, 2006 at 6:13 pm
I’m with the ones who say fuhgettaboutit and spend as much time in the pool with your bikini-worthy bod and oh-so-adorable baby.
Easy for me to say, huh? I’ve YET to don a swimsuit and my kid is almost 6 months old…
jessica
said,
June 27, 2006 at 6:21 pm
I say rock on! There is way too much negative body image stuff around these days, I think we need to embrace the way we look and forget about what other people think. Now if only I could apply this to my own life…practice what you preach and all that.
Carrisa
said,
June 27, 2006 at 6:27 pm
Well considering I’ve never once in my life been able to wear a bikini (or at least for the sake of others have never bothered to even think about it) I must say that I’m sure you looked great. Being a fatty for life as I’ve been, I’ve always been the one in the plain black one piece bathing suit. I cry when it’s time to get in or out of the pool because I hate exposing my awful thighs to those who didn’t do anything to me so why should I be so mean as to subject them to my flaws… I did, however, purchase my first tankini last year. Yes it covers all my stomach and yes it’s in black… but this was a big step for me.
Plus it’s cool because then when no one else is at the pool I can lift up top part and untie the halter straps and get a little sun on those areas that were curious as to what sunlight felt like. I had my first ever tan last year! Yay me!
Heather
said,
June 27, 2006 at 6:39 pm
I have not been comfortable in an official bikini in awhile so all I own are tankini’s. That said, if you own one and feel comfortable enough to wear it… go for it!!
Liza
said,
June 27, 2006 at 6:40 pm
Way to go, Isabel! Have fun with Babboo and the King, and revel in your new state of being a Mom. It’s way more fun than worrying about being judged.
anna
said,
June 27, 2006 at 6:54 pm
Because I am totally one of those mom’s that have flabby belly and all that jazz at the waterparks/pools. Sure I care, but it’s way more fun not to worry about it and just play with the kids.
Plus, if hubby thinks you look hot, then you probably do.
janet
said,
June 27, 2006 at 7:23 pm
I am with jessica and the rest of the crowd here. If you don’t feel bad about yourself (which is great and refreshing) then don’t let others. Not even those 10-yrs-younger judgy people!
Lizzy
said,
June 27, 2006 at 11:56 pm
If you were on vacation at one of them resorts, you wouldn’t have to worry about how you look in a suit at all! Hee.
Mama C-ta
said,
June 28, 2006 at 12:36 am
So cool you dont’ care. I keep meaning to sign us up for swimming classes and it dawned on me the other day that I’m gonna have to get into a bathing suit. And I freaked for a second than thought ah screw it. Cricket will still look darn cute who cares about me.
Lisa B
said,
June 28, 2006 at 12:46 am
I’m sure you looked fab. And if I saw you there looking all fabulous with a small child, I would have been to jealous of you to be friends with you….
The first summer I took my kiddo to the pool the place was FILLED with Stepford Wives. So that freaked me out because I was a dimpled mess of flesh. And gah…. I think they all scarred me for life.
Chas
said,
June 28, 2006 at 4:39 am
I really want to say that you should wear your bikini and say screw those youger, judemental girls…but having just had a baby too I kind of know how you feel. I seem to have lost the weight, but everything has shifted around in a much looser, flabby kind of way and I don’t know if I’d be brave enough to show my love handles at a public pool or not. If you do, then more power to you.
Erika
said,
June 28, 2006 at 10:46 am
LOL…I am totally feeling you on the “go ahead and pee”…what has happened to us?
Durga
said,
June 28, 2006 at 1:16 pm
u hot mama, i’m just sad that i wasn’t there to see u strut your stuff…
Sounds like the King’s been havinga great time since u gave birth…
Durga
said,
June 28, 2006 at 7:35 pm
ohh hahha i forgot all the “extra fun” you guys had right b4 the birth.