Karma, it’s a bitch
Posted by Isabel on January 8th, 2007. Filed under: Churchy Stuff, Me.I got an e-mail from the very new Mom, Britt over at WeekdayWisdom. She admitted to me (and now the rest of the internet) that she’s feeling a little blue since the birth of her sweet baby boy almost 2 weeks ago. I wrote her back and assured her that it gets super easier. It’s hard at first. But you adjust. And the baby adjusts. And then it’s like you were never not-a-Mom.
Then on Sunday I ran into another new Mom in the bathroom at church. Her little girl is 2 months old and I asked how she liked being a Mom. She looked at me with her huge eyes and said “I’m still getting used to it”. She told me her baby isn’t sleeping too well and that’s been hard. I wanted to just hug her. But instead I told her the same thing I had just told Brittney: “It’s hard at first. But you adjust. And the baby adjusts. And then it’s like you were never not-a-Mom.”
On the way home from Church I told The King about these two ladies and how I felt bad for them. But that I also knew that really, it would get better. It would just take their babies sleeping better at night, etc. I sounded like some sort of baby-expert; hey, look at me. I’ve been a Mom for almost 9 months and I know it all.
HAAAAA!!!
I reminded last night that I, in fact, don’t know it all. And that being a Mom is hard.
Babboo usually has no issues going to sleep at night. He usually sleeps all through the night, with a few exceptions. He’s been doing this since he was very little.
But last night? Yeah, he didn’t want to go to sleep. And after he finally did go to sleep, he woke up every hour. And then wanted to nurse until I thought I was going to bleed. (Is that TMI? If so, then you haven’t read my latest over at NewToUs.)
Today is one of those days that I wish I was a coffee drinker. Because not only do I need a freakin’ cup, I also need a long hard nap. A nap in which I don’t have a kicking 9 month old next to me.
And since it’s National Delurking Week (thanks to Frema for reminding me and for also reminding me that we found each other last year when I delurked over at her place), leave a comment. Or two. And while you’re at it, have a cup of coffee for me.
January 8th, 2007 at 4:57 pm
Just when you think you know what you’re doing and you’ve got a nice little routine and all is right with the world…those little boogers will knock you off that pedestal in a second!!! I hope you get some sleep tonight.
January 8th, 2007 at 5:03 pm
I’m really bad about coming off as a know-it-all mom sometimes, but then my little guy (as Babboo did) reminds me that he has even more tricks up his sleeve. Just when I think I have him all figured out, he decides he no longer likes the food that has been his favorite for months or something else just as odd.
I hope you get some good sleep in tonight. Sometimes I wish they could understand that the moms don’t get to take naps the next day.
January 8th, 2007 at 5:06 pm
I’m definitely not a lurker, but I love you and this blog. I don’t drink coffee, either, but I’ll have Luke get right on that, just for you.
January 8th, 2007 at 5:08 pm
My baby girl is also a good sleeper until the last couple of nights! (and also 9 months old!) SHe would. not. go. to. sleep. last night and the other night we were up for several hours in the middle of the night. I am blaming it on new teeth. Thankfully, she is napping right now. Now if only I could do something with this toddler, then I could sleep too…
January 8th, 2007 at 5:13 pm
Eek! I hope you catch up on some rest soon!
And, not that I’m a lurker here or anything, but Happy Delurking Week!
January 8th, 2007 at 5:17 pm
I think I am suffering from whatever Babboo has. I don’t seem to ever fall asleep and then I wake up a lot. WTF? Anyway, here’s to Monday going by quickly. I hope.
January 8th, 2007 at 5:18 pm
I ordered a large coffee for you today, instead of my regular medium. Is it working? do you feel awake yet? If not, I’ll be happy to go and get another and another until you feel better.
January 8th, 2007 at 5:26 pm
I’m going to miss sleep. I’ve brainwashed myself into thinking that this baby is going to sleep all the time!!
January 8th, 2007 at 5:33 pm
I’ve always wondered why three moms couldn’t just rent a studio apartment together and then take 8.5 hour shifts living there and taking care of all three babies at once. Yeah, every day you’d start 1 1/2 hours later. That’s okay though. And one mom would be really flaky. Okay, this is not looking like such a good idea now.
January 8th, 2007 at 5:54 pm
Ah, the sleeping issues.
Just last night my husband asked me, “does this get easier?”. And we have a 3 1/2 year old and an eleven month old. Hmmm.
January 8th, 2007 at 6:24 pm
Yeah, I ran into a pregnant woman at babie r us last week. She had a box of Pampers and Huggies in her basket and I stopped her to tell her that Pampers were the way to go and huggies just leak all over. She was upbeat and said, “good to know” then went along her mery way.
I don’t know if I expected her to high tail it back to the diaper department to put back the huggies or what, but then I realized that I have become that mother I hated while I was pregnant. You know, the one who dishes out unsolicitated advice. Oh well. I couldn’t help it. Pampers really are better. But I guess everyone just has to figure these things out for themselvs.
And for the record. I asked friends about diaper brands before Lilly was born.
January 8th, 2007 at 7:40 pm
You made my day.
Your advice was spot on though. It doesn’t necessarily get easier because the older the kiddos get, the harder the issues are. Still, you adjust, the child adjusts. Sleep does help tremendously.
January 8th, 2007 at 9:30 pm
I have had enough coffee today for the both of us. Let’s all pray for a long night of wonderful sleep tonight.
January 8th, 2007 at 9:42 pm
I have really enjoyed reading your blog since discovering it a month or two back…
And I can definitely empathize with you – my four month old daughter would not sleep longer than an hour at a time for 5 days last week. It was pure TORTURE! She nursed practically 24 hours a day and I felt like I wanted to cut my boobs off, they were so sore and I was so exhausted.
It will get better. And hope it happens SOON for you. Sending some Zzzzzz’s your way….
January 8th, 2007 at 10:05 pm
Poor Britt! I know it can be hard for some moms at the beginning (seeing how I know lots of mommies!) and even after! I’m not a mommy yet, but being with Shaun for 2 and 1/2 years and watching Zachary go from a baby to a raging toddler, I have come to know his routines and getting used to them, it can be tough when they don’t follow them sometimes. Kids are always unpredictable!
But one thing is for DEFINITE sure! Babboo and Callaway are ABSOLUTELY adorable babies!
January 8th, 2007 at 10:24 pm
I’ve been slowly trying to delurk myself here. So here I am again, saying hi! (Frema reminded me too! God bless Frema.)
Good luck with the sleep thing. Jack slept through the night once, right around 4 months. And never since.
January 8th, 2007 at 11:12 pm
Evie is over a year old and I’m still adjusting. It’s gotten easier but by no means am I all like, “Being a mom is the easiest thing in the world!” In fact, whoever says that I’m calling them a liar. A big, fat liar.
January 8th, 2007 at 11:16 pm
I am reminded often that I have no idea what being a mom is all about! Just when I think I get it…Jaxon proves me wrong!!! Glad to know we are all in the boat together!
January 9th, 2007 at 12:03 am
I was totally cracked out on coffee this morning & thought about you
I hope you get some better sleep soon!
January 9th, 2007 at 12:23 am
Coffee!? Did someone say COFFEE!?
I didn’t like coffee until I was the Mom of three kids under the age of 5 and we were moved to the Great White North.
January 9th, 2007 at 12:42 am
I don’t have a blog but you are on my sister’s blog roll and I check you all the time. Happy De-Lurking Week!
January 9th, 2007 at 1:08 am
I don’t know if it counts as delurking since I’ve commented before, but hello! xoxo
January 9th, 2007 at 2:12 am
I hope it get better, chica, and that you get lots of shut eye tonight. I’ll drink a cup of coffee on your behalf.
January 9th, 2007 at 2:59 am
Hello! Happy delurking week!
January 9th, 2007 at 4:08 am
I’m no lurker…but happy New Comments Week!
And I do hope that Babboo’s sleeping is back on track. Our Henry Bear is giving us an awful fuss.
His sleep was out of whack before the Bronchiolitis, but now it’s even worse. I’m praying for a new tooth, too. Because seriously? I can’t manage another ‘thing’ being added to the sleep issues. Feh!
January 9th, 2007 at 5:03 am
Isabel, I honestly don’t know how it is for u but it sure sounds hard and inconvenient. But I’m sure most of the time it’s worth it all.
I hope I have a baby soon…hopefully when I’ve finished school…which for me seems so far away.
January 9th, 2007 at 2:35 pm
hi! it’s me again. i’ve been lurking lately. love your blog too much to stay away!
January 9th, 2007 at 3:07 pm
I never read your blog. I just happened by in my search for stories on bleeding nipples and beastiality. Oh well. Happy DeLurking!
January 9th, 2007 at 3:13 pm
At least you didn’t say, “Well, MY Babboo was sleeping through the night from Day 1, so nyah nyah!” You gave them hope, and I’m sure they needed it.
(De-lurking.)
January 9th, 2007 at 3:29 pm
I’m just gonna count on your sage advice anyway, that it does get easier over time! I am so nervous about handling a baby… I don’t think I ever even changed a diaper before!
January 9th, 2007 at 3:37 pm
Oh how I hate no sleep.
Once the new moms get sleep, regular sleep, more than 5 hours at a time sleep, then the sky will start to clear and things will slowly improve. I mean, look at how horrible we function with no sleep. Now throw in a live human being, for the first time, for you to take care of, all the time, and well, it’s a wonder any of us ever make it through. But we do.
January 9th, 2007 at 4:59 pm
have a cup of hot chocolate – when I went to seattle last year thats what I lived off of.
Happy De-Luker week…
January 9th, 2007 at 8:14 pm
Found you through Daily Dose. Glad to find you!
January 9th, 2007 at 11:35 pm
De-lurker week!? WOW!!! Cool! Can I steal your little de-lurking button??? Pleeeeeeeeeeeeease.
January 10th, 2007 at 12:02 am
Okay, would not be commenting — if not for the de-lurking thing, but will say this: karma, she is a BITCH!! Before I had kids, I commented on any parent who couldn’t keep their children snotless, “I mean, c’mon. How hard is it to wipe your kid’s nose — gross!” Guess who went on to have four snotty-nosed boys who hated having their noses’ wiped with white-hot burning passion? I’ve learned (the hard, hard, excrutiating way) to keep my judgemental mouth shut, because invariably the one judgemental comment I cannot keep to myself will come back and bite me in the ass through one of my beautiful boys.
January 10th, 2007 at 4:29 pm
First time visitor, so I’m not sure this technically counts as a delurking. I’ll be a first time mom in just 10 weeks. I may be back for some assvice.