If you don’t say it out loud, it doesn’t exist
Posted by Isabel on June 6th, 2007. Filed under: Me, My Sweet Babboo, The King.There are times when I just can’t stop thinking about something, but I just can’t bring myself to say it out loud. Once I say it out loud, it becomes real and then I have to deal with it.
I don’t like to deal with things.
Monday The King and I put Babboo in his stroller and went out walking in downtown. Ten minutes before this we had been inside our apartment watching the latest episode of Entourage. That was until they started showing actual porn in the background of some of the scenes.
Now I know that Entourage isn’t usually rated G. Heck, it’s not even rated PG-13. But seeing actual porn was a little too much for me while I was sitting on the floor playing wiht my one year old. So I packed up the kid and told The King we were heading out for a walk. He turned off the TV and came with us.
During our walk I told him that there was something I’d been thinking about, but was afraid to say it out loud.
What’s going on?
I just keep thinking that we should limit our television watching. Now might be a good time since the TV season is over.
You are probably right.
Especially since some of our favorite shows aren’t coming back next year. Maybe we should try to not start any new shows and stick with a few of the classics.
We could try to read more. Or go outside more. The weather should be getting nicer soon. Too bad that new Traveler show is so good. I want to watch it.
We’ll have to talk about what shows to get rid of.
Since I had been brave enough to say one thing out loud, I decided to go for broke and tell him about something else I had been thinking about over the last few months. I just hadn’t been able to say out loud.
While I was brave enough to say it out loud to my husband, I’m not ready to type it out for the interweb.
Not just yet.
The King was very supportive. He asked questions. He showed concerned. He asked what he could do to help me. He even put his arm around me while we walked home and told me how much he loves me and our family.
Once we were back home and Babboo was asleep, The King turned to me and said; by day 46 you should have forgotten all about what’s been on your mind.
Day 46 of what?
Day 46 of our 100 days of condom use.
Yeah, maybe I will.
June 6th, 2007 at 12:54 pm
I had the same idea — no picking up of new shows next year. Since so many of our shows got canceled, I really hope it will cut down on TV time… I used to turn on the TV the second I walked in the door, but lately I’ve just been enjoying the quiet… which has made me think there is too much TV in my life.
Please tell me the secret of getting your significant other to agree. I havne’t broken this news to Joel yet.
June 6th, 2007 at 12:59 pm
I support you!!!!
I was a Mom of three children, ages 7, 5 and 2 when I watched the big Fall roll out of my favorite shows in September of 1998.
The entire Everybody Loves Raymond show was based on Deborah’s fake/not fake boobs… and it was on at 7:30 when the kids are all still awake. I was angry about it so I wrote to NBC and then I turned the tv off.
I haven’t really watched TV since 1998. (And it’s GOTTEN SOOOOO MUCH WORSE SINCE THEN!)
I don’t live under a rock – I don’t ‘ban’ it – but the tv is banished to the basement so you won’t find a tv on the main level of our home.
Life is better when you aren’t spoon fed all the crap that tv dishes out. In the meantime, I hope you shoot off an email to your tv show (which I’ve never heard of) and let them know you don’t appreciate the porn in the background of it!
June 6th, 2007 at 1:08 pm
Good for you, having the courage to bring up the topics that needed to come out in the open. I’m glad he was supportive!
Kevin and I are not huge tv watchers either. We have “our shows” (Sopranos, Office, Grey’s) but we TiVo them and watch them after the kids are in bed. I feel the same way as you and the previous commenter. Letting the kids run around in the room during primetime tv and hoping they don’t notice is like spinning the roulette wheel, so we just don’t watch anything until later.
Hope all is well!
June 6th, 2007 at 2:31 pm
Yay for cutting down on TV time. Luke and I talk about it a lot, and we are ready for a few shows to be over because they just aren’t up to par anymore–pretty much 24 and Scrubs–but I must watch them for as long as they’re on. I’ve tried quitting All My Children, but it never lasts. I always come back.
June 6th, 2007 at 2:35 pm
So confused…..but, good for you and the less tv time. I need to do that myself, but it’s just so hard to break away! Better to do it in the summer though when you can fill your time going outside.
June 6th, 2007 at 3:03 pm
Aw, that King is a good guy!!
I try not to watch TV that much, although I can’t miss LOST, The Office or Big Love. Then again, there is no one under the age of 25 in my household, so adult content is no problem.
June 6th, 2007 at 3:29 pm
So what is it that you’re not brave enough to admit to the Internets? Now I’m dying!
I’m all for cutting down on TV time. I do heart me some television, but I just find if I let myself, I just watch too much. I ti-faux a lot of shows, but keep then on in the background while folding laundry and whatnot.
Because we don’t watch television with Henry, we’ve found we watch far, far less.
We had a discussion the other night about not picking up any new shows as we can’t keep up with the shows we do watch. We have episodes of House from April that we’ve yet to watch!
June 6th, 2007 at 3:35 pm
We don’t have cable because there’s just 100+ channels of CRAP on all the time. But I agree with you. Even some of the stuff on “regular” TV is bad. Movie previews are the worst. There are 3 that come on NBC all the time and I have to “shield” Haley’s eyes from them.
And whatever you talked to the King about? I hope it gets resolved in your heart before too long. It sucks having something weigh heavily and not be able to do anything about it.
xoxo
June 6th, 2007 at 3:42 pm
Talking about something always ends up feeling good. Communication can sometimes make or break a relationship. I’m glad The King was supportive of whatever it is that you are dealing with right now!
June 6th, 2007 at 4:02 pm
I hope all is ok! I worry now! hugs! here if you need anything!
Good foryou with the TV. Mike and I haven;t had the guts yet… maybe this year since Abbie is getting older and paying more attention to the tv. You definetly have me thinking about it.
June 6th, 2007 at 4:12 pm
i was stunned when Little Elephants (http://littleelephants.typepad.com/) threw out her TV. i thought it was the bravest thing ever, & i understand how we can come to this. We have cut down a lot on TV, too, & it’s a great decision. Good luck !
Hope whatever is bothering you clears up quickly, & thanks for sharing as much or as little as you can. Me, too, i sometimes avoid writing or telling something because then – it becomes REAL.
June 6th, 2007 at 4:15 pm
The King is amazing, it is so great that he is so supportive of you – especially when you are scared or nervous about addressing an issue.
And re: the TV – I haven’t watched one for years and I think I’ve turned out ok.
xox
June 6th, 2007 at 4:32 pm
I’ve cut down on my tv time without even thinking about it. I blame this on the fact that I was literally destroyed when The OC went off the air and I couldn’t bring myself to watch new shows. I might have even had some sort of a small meltdown, but we’ll brush that right under the rug… Anyways, good for you and less TV!
June 6th, 2007 at 4:38 pm
Except for the Soprano’s and Food Network, we don’t watch T.V. You’ll never miss it, I promise.
June 6th, 2007 at 4:50 pm
We honestly don’t watch that much TV… although there are some nights where I’m just so tired I want to veg out… but usually, we wait until the baby is asleep. If he’s awake, the only TV we watch is cartoons, but even then, we don’t watch much of that! I will say, the only show I absolutely have to watch is LOST… everything else I can take or leave… probably because if I really want a good TV fix, I put in one of my seasons of Friends and watch.
June 6th, 2007 at 4:56 pm
I think it’s time for me to start cutting back on my TV too. Shaun’s not really a big TV person. He only has a few shows he favors. Now that there aren’t any shows of interest to me on TV right now, except for Hell’s Kitchen and The Simple Life, and of course The Price is Right, I’ll need to start cutting back. It’s gonna be so hard.
June 6th, 2007 at 5:00 pm
Honestly we just don’t watch non-kid stuff with the kid in the room. She repeats everything!
June 6th, 2007 at 5:05 pm
I like the whole less tv deal. Brooks and I attempt it like very other person out there. Our isn’t bc of bad stuff being shown to kids, but because I think it makes us talk a lot less. The same reason I enforce no dinner on couch most nites.
It is much easier to follow this strategy when the weather is nice, so in the winter we do puzzles and card games to keep ourselves entertained. We really have to make an effort to think of things to do when the weather is cold though. We listen to the radio and Brooks sings his own lyrics to lots of songs and I laugh at him, but at least we are talking to each other.
I hope all of your other discussion were theraputic for you. I know just telling the important people in your life some times makes things more bearable. You are blessed to have that in your husband.
June 6th, 2007 at 5:17 pm
While I’m shocked that you said that about watching less tv, I get where you are coming from. I should do the same as well.
As for the other thing? It’s ok to admit to the King that you want to move to Oklahoma to live near me. I’m glad he was so understanding about it. I’ll start looking at houses for you.
*hugs*
June 6th, 2007 at 6:02 pm
I feel that I am partly responsible for your hesitance to bare your soul to the interweb. Anytime you want me to stop reading so you can resume you previous, utterly open, style, you just say the word.
June 6th, 2007 at 6:10 pm
Since my free time has recently all but vanished, I’ve been watching a lot less TV and I really haven’t missed it. The other day I went downstairs to find Tim on his laptop with the TV on with the volume down. I asked him why he had the TV on if he obviously wasn’t paying any attention to it, and he just said that he likes having it on. This baffles me. I’m just the opposite. I like coming home and spending some quiet, non-TV time with him. And when I’m home without him, the TV is practically never on. Luckily when we’re together we tend to find a good balance of TV and non-TV time, so for now it’s all good.
I hope for nothing but the best outcome for whatever else is on your mind. Isn’t it great to have a wonderful supportive husband to help you deal with life?
June 6th, 2007 at 6:11 pm
I think we need to talk about this before you give up certain shows.
You know, you can always find out a quick synopsis from me on your old faves and feel like you were almost there (yet didn’t waste your own time!).
Good luck with the 100 days. I’d advise some lube so there’s no chafing.
Just sayin’.
June 6th, 2007 at 6:44 pm
Um, I am a dork and I know it but did Eddie Izzard seriously comment on your blog? He didn’t, right? Because if you had an existing relationship with the man and never mentioned it before I don’t know what I would do with myself.
I don’t watch much TV, mostly if it is on it is for comfort, but I find that the TV division is huge; either you TiVO and watch EVERYTHING on TV and inhale it like air or it is of such little consequence in your life that you just don’t much care. I will admit that since the advent of netflix I do watch a bit more but I have no cable and have never laid eyes on entourage, much less porn filled entourage. Which starts me on a whole rant: I am so f**cking tired of porn! Stop making is so f**cking prevalent! I have a neice and a young brother and it is damange for small children to see that bullshit, not to mention that I am not a fan. There is a time and a place for everything, stop trying to make it common place and cram it down our throats!
Glad you got to talk with the hubby, just don’t be all moving to Reno and stuff, because though it would be cool to hang with you this place sucks and Seattle rocks. Stay there. I hope that isn’t what you are afraid to tell the interweb.
I agree with hollowsquirrel on the lube.
June 6th, 2007 at 7:25 pm
I think I might die if we try to cut back on the TV. But, some of my shows ended this year, so maybe it will be a natural cut back, you know?
June 6th, 2007 at 7:51 pm
I could totally live without TV in my house, however my husband would probably die.
I think that it’s a great idea to limit your TV watching…most of it is crap anyway. Well except for a few things.
Glad you were able to open up and tell The King what was on your mind….and I get a vibe from putting two and two together that I *might* have an idea of what it was. Just an idea. And no, I’m not stalking you….
Best Wishes!
June 6th, 2007 at 8:31 pm
Holy crap! How do you get so many comments on your blog?! I’m doing cartwheels if I get three!
I don’t have TV. I hate the lifstyle. I’ve got enough problems without adding another potential addiction to my life.
The guy in the “I Can’t. I’m Mormon.” shirt actually wasn’t mormon. He just has a lot of them as friends and thought it was funny. As did I. Thanks for your comment!
June 6th, 2007 at 10:07 pm
Good job on the less TV thing. When we moved into our new house I only turned on basic cable. I knew if I had more available I would watch it to much. I also worried about what my kids are watching. We are the only people I know of that only own 1 TV and we don’t even have TIVO but it works for us. Good luck ;0)
June 7th, 2007 at 1:16 am
Everyone’s talking about TV, and I’m sitting here wondering what you’re not telling us! No pressure, though. Really. No, REALLY!
But about the TV thing…we have a “TV Room” with the whole movie-watching/video gaming setup. It’s not in our regular living room or anywhere near our dining room or office, so we have to make a real decision to watch TV when we do. That way, we only watch what we love and it’s not that much.
June 7th, 2007 at 2:23 am
Oh man, way to leave us hanging, Isabel! I understand though…not always easy to just spill it on the ol’ blog. Anyway, I feel you on the TV watching. We probably watch too much TV at our house. Luckily, Lila doesn’t watch anything yet. I try to just record everything on the DVR and watch it all after she goes to bed.
June 7th, 2007 at 11:38 am
We started the whole “watch less tv” thing a couple of weeks ago, but unfortunately it’s not working too well this week. That’s because I left for the week and neither of us has much to do and so we’re using TV as a boredom buster. Hopefully we’ll get back on track when I get home on Friday.
June 7th, 2007 at 2:57 pm
Good luck on limiting TV. I think if you’re ready to make that decision, and you don’t have a bunch of must-see favorites, it’s probably easier than you think.
June 7th, 2007 at 3:45 pm
Believe it or not, I TOTALLY support your cause. I’d do the same thing, but then I’d have nothing to blog about!
June 10th, 2007 at 2:21 am
Ooh, mysterious! Should we try to guess? -
Isabel said, “The King, I think you should stop wearing my underwear to work.”
Or, “The King, I’ve been thinking maybe I should stop selling my eggs for Babboo’s college fund. It just feels weird.”
Ha ha You don’t have to tell your blog friends. Ever. For reals.
I give you props for cutting back on TV watching. Or planning to cut back. Whatever. It’s hard to give up things like that.
June 19th, 2007 at 12:56 am
Wow. Good luck. I can’t give up TV. I. must. have. TV.