Comments on: Here, take him. Promise me you’ll take good care of him. Promise me.

By: Jihan

Jihan — Mon, 29 Oct 2007 23:10:40 +0000

I remember growing up that I got to decide which one of my mother’s four younger sisters I would live with if she died, because there was no way she’d let me move to Turkey. I could never choose- the fun lesbian aunt? the boring aunt with the successful husband? the aunt who lived in Japan with her six kids? Or the one who lived in a trailer in the woods? Hmm… so many choices. Glad it never came to picking one for real.

Hey if you die, we’ll take the boy. I mean…it comes with a hefty insurance pay out, right?

By: dcrmom

dcrmom — Mon, 29 Oct 2007 12:03:01 +0000

Ugh. Such a hard decision. One that we’ve avoided making official, even though we know it’s stupid to leave it hanging. But it’s just so hard to know what to do, isn’t it?

By: king

king — Fri, 26 Oct 2007 19:22:56 +0000

the real truth of this conversation was that YOU started it off by saying that you wanted nobody in my family to raise the boy. not me saying that about your family.
the boy will unfortunately go to the state if we both die, because its not worth the argument…

By: Audrey

Audrey — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 21:45:58 +0000

Wow, that is not a subject we’ve ever talked about. I have no idea who we would send our hypothetical children to. Probably one of their aunts or uncles, but, then again, my brother’s and Tim’s sisters’ lifestyles vary quite a bit from our own. That is definitely something we need to think about/discuss at some point.

I can easily say (and I hope Tim would easily agree) that we would send the dog to my parents. Tim’s family’s dogs are not well behaved, and we don’t want Ben’s good behavior to disappear. But my parents’ dog is not only best friends with Ben, but she’s also super well behaved. And I know my parents could give Ben the love and attention (and discipline) he deserves.

I love that you link to your other new posts, by the way.

By: heels

heels — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 20:47:11 +0000

We have made verbal arrangements for our son to go with a friend who I have known since kindergarten and my husband has known since early high-school. We are very close with him, his new wife loves our son, we love his whole family and have spent a lot of time around them, and his parents live in the same town as our parents. They don’t have kids yet, but they want them some day. They are educated and creative and, though I don’t want Cole to have to go with them EVER, I know he’ll be okay if he has to.