Comments on: Slow to anger?

By: Carol

Carol — Sat, 22 Mar 2008 23:37:36 +0000

I am giving a talk in church on “slow to anger” Sunday, 3-22-08. Thanks to all for the comments.
As we try to learn this valuable concept, and at least as I struggle with it, I find
that realizing our human gift of choice to respond to a stimulus, is what all of you are saying as the way to deal with a difficult situation.
Carol

By: amieable

amieable — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 19:43:10 +0000

Oh Isabel I’m so glad you wrote this. I too have been angry for most of the last seven months. It started with a death in the family and then was a sleigh ride into increasing hate when Longball had his surgery. I have always had somewhat of a temper but found myself coming unglued over silly things this summer and fall. I’ve learned that when I quickly discharge my anger by yelling or throwing something it feels good but then my anger is even QUICKER to come the next time. I’ve been trying to let my anger subside gently from now on.

In short, thanks for sharing your own struggles because it makes me feel less alone in my struggle. And sign me up for an iron-on!

By: Danielle

Danielle — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 21:10:01 +0000

I need some serious help with this too. Count me in on your journey…

By: HollowSquirrel

HollowSquirrel — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 01:15:04 +0000

Hi. I’m Stacy, and I’m irritable and quick to anger, too. I do think it’d be helpful if you said something to your coworker to let him know that he’s being a jerk. Why should you let him be his punching bag. It’s not ok behavior, and if he directed his doucheness to someone else, they might not take it as passively as you have. And, it’s making you upset and NOT want to come to work (isn’t that a condition of harrassment?).

I’ve tried to reduce my irritability but taking three deep breaths before reacting. It’s helped, although I’m not “cured.”

By: Miss Squirrel

Miss Squirrel — Wed, 30 Jan 2008 19:36:51 +0000

Oh my I am so in on this one. I have been at a job for the last two years that was a really big mistake to take, and I’ve noticed how it’s slowly started to destroy my positive attitude and outlook at work and now I see that anger and bad attitude slowly seeping into other aspects of my life. I know this has to change. I don’t like myself when I’m angry, and I wouldn’t want to be friends with me if I were someone else. My current plan to deal with it is actually pretty drastic: I’m quitting my job in a couple of months and taking off to travel for 3-6 months. I can’t in good faith go straight to another job with all this baggage… I need a good long break to work it out and then let it go, while doing something that makes me happy.