Comments on: In which I try to figure out what it takes to have it all http://www.holaisabel.com/2008/03/21/in-which-i-try-to-figure-out-what-it-takes-to-have-it-all/ Sun, 29 Jan 2012 03:48:13 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Abbie http://www.holaisabel.com/2008/03/21/in-which-i-try-to-figure-out-what-it-takes-to-have-it-all/comment-page-1/#comment-20267 Abbie Wed, 26 Mar 2008 15:40:50 +0000 http://holaisabel.com/blog/2008/03/21/in-which-i-try-to-figure-out-what-it-takes-to-have-it-all/#comment-20267 Won't it be nice if life came with a manual? My son is 12 and what I thought I had figured out when he was 11years and 11 months changed on me.*that quick*...the only thing I have figured out is my expectation that at 12years and 1 month something WILL change again on me "that quick" and the fact that I can still remain Abbie even though I have no problem embracing change. Won’t it be nice if life came with a manual? My son is 12 and what I thought I had figured out when he was 11years and 11 months changed on me.*that quick*…the only thing I have figured out is my expectation that at 12years and 1 month something WILL change again on me “that quick” and the fact that I can still remain Abbie even though I have no problem embracing change.

]]> By: Ashley http://www.holaisabel.com/2008/03/21/in-which-i-try-to-figure-out-what-it-takes-to-have-it-all/comment-page-1/#comment-20266 Ashley Wed, 26 Mar 2008 13:53:33 +0000 http://holaisabel.com/blog/2008/03/21/in-which-i-try-to-figure-out-what-it-takes-to-have-it-all/#comment-20266 Great post.. Are we all going through this as mothers? Great post.. Are we all going through this as mothers?

]]> By: metalia http://www.holaisabel.com/2008/03/21/in-which-i-try-to-figure-out-what-it-takes-to-have-it-all/comment-page-1/#comment-20261 metalia Wed, 26 Mar 2008 02:28:03 +0000 http://holaisabel.com/blog/2008/03/21/in-which-i-try-to-figure-out-what-it-takes-to-have-it-all/#comment-20261 I don't have any great wisdom here, just wanted to say that I totally empathize and relate to what you're saying. I don’t have any great wisdom here, just wanted to say that I totally empathize and relate to what you’re saying.

]]> By: Rachel http://www.holaisabel.com/2008/03/21/in-which-i-try-to-figure-out-what-it-takes-to-have-it-all/comment-page-1/#comment-20252 Rachel Tue, 25 Mar 2008 19:12:31 +0000 http://holaisabel.com/blog/2008/03/21/in-which-i-try-to-figure-out-what-it-takes-to-have-it-all/#comment-20252 Let me first say that I never expect to have it all figured out. While I sometimes wonder where I would be had I never had kids or gotten married (who doesn't), it's really hard to imagine. Although I am still Rachel, I am also a mother and wife. That is part of the person I am now. I don't know that getting married and having kids changed me so much as growing older changed me. But I still have the same sense of humor, still like the same music, same clothes, I still love to read and hang out with my friends. I don't know. Maybe what I am saying doesn't make any sense. That happens to me alot. I know that for the most part I like the person I've become. I've been a mom for 7 years and still mess up. I still get stressed. I still get frustrated and flustered. I am always thinking about what needs to be done next, laundry, cooking, cleaning, blah blah blah. But, I also get sweet kisses from my girls. I get to be the person that Alyssa hands her empty cup to saying "heah mama". I think that's what Smelly was trying to say. Even though they will run you ragged sometimes, they can melt your heart anyways and nothing could be better. Let me first say that I never expect to have it all figured out.

While I sometimes wonder where I would be had I never had kids or gotten married (who doesn’t), it’s really hard to imagine. Although I am still Rachel, I am also a mother and wife. That is part of the person I am now. I don’t know that getting married and having kids changed me so much as growing older changed me. But I still have the same sense of humor, still like the same music, same clothes, I still love to read and hang out with my friends.

I don’t know. Maybe what I am saying doesn’t make any sense. That happens to me alot. I know that for the most part I like the person I’ve become. I’ve been a mom for 7 years and still mess up. I still get stressed. I still get frustrated and flustered. I am always thinking about what needs to be done next, laundry, cooking, cleaning, blah blah blah. But, I also get sweet kisses from my girls. I get to be the person that Alyssa hands her empty cup to saying “heah mama”. I think that’s what Smelly was trying to say. Even though they will run you ragged sometimes, they can melt your heart anyways and nothing could be better.

]]> By: Tracee Sioux http://www.holaisabel.com/2008/03/21/in-which-i-try-to-figure-out-what-it-takes-to-have-it-all/comment-page-1/#comment-20249 Tracee Sioux Tue, 25 Mar 2008 17:58:49 +0000 http://holaisabel.com/blog/2008/03/21/in-which-i-try-to-figure-out-what-it-takes-to-have-it-all/#comment-20249 How old must you be before you have it all figured out and forget the person you were before you were Wife and Mother? I found it's not as much about your age as your child's - as they get older they need you less and you naturally feel less pulled in their direction. This allows more time and energy to be invested in other things. My daughter is 6 and my son is too - as they get older and need me less I feel more myself. I just wrote about A New Earth and in chapter 4 "roles" are discussed. Your roles as "wife" and "mother" aren't "you." So, you're onto something there. http://traceesioux.blogspot.com/2008/03/roles-we-play-new-earth-community.html If one wants to hold onto one's self it might be best to stop referring to one's husband as The King. (I notice you did not refer to your own self as The Queen but as His Wife. No judgement and hopefully you're only kidding - I'm just saying. ) How old must you be before you have it all figured out and forget the person you were before you were Wife and Mother?

I found it’s not as much about your age as your child’s – as they get older they need you less and you naturally feel less pulled in their direction. This allows more time and energy to be invested in other things. My daughter is 6 and my son is too – as they get older and need me less I feel more myself.

I just wrote about A New Earth and in chapter 4 “roles” are discussed. Your roles as “wife” and “mother” aren’t “you.” So, you’re onto something there. http://traceesioux.blogspot.com/2008/03/roles-we-play-new-earth-community.html

If one wants to hold onto one’s self it might be best to stop referring to one’s husband as The King. (I notice you did not refer to your own self as The Queen but as His Wife. No judgement and hopefully you’re only kidding – I’m just saying. )

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