Comments on: In which I made a vow to never have a long-distance-relationship again http://www.holaisabel.com/2008/04/29/in-which-i-made-a-vow-to-never-have-a-long-distance-relationship-again/ Thu, 29 Jul 2010 04:08:22 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Karen http://www.holaisabel.com/2008/04/29/in-which-i-made-a-vow-to-never-have-a-long-distance-relationship-again/comment-page-1/#comment-21140 Karen Fri, 02 May 2008 12:00:05 +0000 http://holaisabel.com/blog/2008/04/29/in-which-i-made-a-vow-to-never-have-a-long-distance-relationship-again/#comment-21140 I've been in one fore the past year: 3000 miles and a border apart (I'm in PA and he's in Vancouver BC). We've made it work with prodigious IM-ing, Skype, and several flights. Six weeks apart seems to be the limit. It's actually been a good thing, though, and has helped us define things. Six weeks without sex kind of sucks though. Never thought I'd be looking into immigration issues, but there you go: I'm moving. I’ve been in one fore the past year: 3000 miles and a border apart (I’m in PA and he’s in Vancouver BC). We’ve made it work with prodigious IM-ing, Skype, and several flights. Six weeks apart seems to be the limit.

It’s actually been a good thing, though, and has helped us define things.

Six weeks without sex kind of sucks though.

Never thought I’d be looking into immigration issues, but there you go: I’m moving.

]]> By: Rachel http://www.holaisabel.com/2008/04/29/in-which-i-made-a-vow-to-never-have-a-long-distance-relationship-again/comment-page-1/#comment-21133 Rachel Thu, 01 May 2008 20:36:56 +0000 http://holaisabel.com/blog/2008/04/29/in-which-i-made-a-vow-to-never-have-a-long-distance-relationship-again/#comment-21133 I have never had a long distance relationship and even if I wasn't married I doubt I ever would. For the same reasons you have, I'm just too lazy. I have never had a long distance relationship and even if I wasn’t married I doubt I ever would. For the same reasons you have, I’m just too lazy.

]]> By: Christar http://www.holaisabel.com/2008/04/29/in-which-i-made-a-vow-to-never-have-a-long-distance-relationship-again/comment-page-1/#comment-21118 Christar Thu, 01 May 2008 16:25:04 +0000 http://holaisabel.com/blog/2008/04/29/in-which-i-made-a-vow-to-never-have-a-long-distance-relationship-again/#comment-21118 Thank goodness, I've never had a long distance relationship. It would be so hard, especially to be the only one driving and paying. UGH! I would get annoyed with that too. So, I've been too lazy to respond to your post on my blog. I just wanted to say THANK YOU! :) We had such a fun, memorable time! I so wanted to go to Seattle, but we had a strict time schedule. :( BUT! We're already planning to go back when they shoot the next movie, and hopefully we plan it better and have more time. I want to make it to Seattle next time and totally want to stalk you... or get together for lunch, whichever works best. :) Thank goodness, I’ve never had a long distance relationship. It would be so hard, especially to be the only one driving and paying. UGH! I would get annoyed with that too.

So, I’ve been too lazy to respond to your post on my blog. I just wanted to say THANK YOU! :) We had such a fun, memorable time! I so wanted to go to Seattle, but we had a strict time schedule. :( BUT! We’re already planning to go back when they shoot the next movie, and hopefully we plan it better and have more time. I want to make it to Seattle next time and totally want to stalk you… or get together for lunch, whichever works best. :)

]]> By: Amanda Brown http://www.holaisabel.com/2008/04/29/in-which-i-made-a-vow-to-never-have-a-long-distance-relationship-again/comment-page-1/#comment-21116 Amanda Brown Thu, 01 May 2008 15:32:25 +0000 http://holaisabel.com/blog/2008/04/29/in-which-i-made-a-vow-to-never-have-a-long-distance-relationship-again/#comment-21116 I was the teenage queen of long distance romances. I would go to a Bible youth conference, find a boy I fell madly in love with over the course of 2 DAYS, then date him long distance for nearly a year. There were some pretty intense love letters making their way across the provinces in the 90's. My husband and I had to do long distance for about 4 months and although it was hard, it kind of strengthened our bond and confirmed we couldn't live without each other. I was the teenage queen of long distance romances. I would go to a Bible youth conference, find a boy I fell madly in love with over the course of 2 DAYS, then date him long distance for nearly a year. There were some pretty intense love letters making their way across the provinces in the 90’s.
My husband and I had to do long distance for about 4 months and although it was hard, it kind of strengthened our bond and confirmed we couldn’t live without each other.

]]> By: Anna http://www.holaisabel.com/2008/04/29/in-which-i-made-a-vow-to-never-have-a-long-distance-relationship-again/comment-page-1/#comment-21109 Anna Thu, 01 May 2008 04:20:16 +0000 http://holaisabel.com/blog/2008/04/29/in-which-i-made-a-vow-to-never-have-a-long-distance-relationship-again/#comment-21109 So I emailed this to you, but I figured I"d post it as well. The hubs and I were LD (four hours apart) for almost two years. Surprisingly, I actually enjoyed the drive. It was an opportunity to get some much needed alone time considering I was working a busy retail management job and living at home with my parents. I found it really relaxing. The Sunday afternoon drive home developed my interest in football! The additional freedom and extended college experience I got to have while visiting was great. Plus I had the added benefit of actually liking the guy on the other end. Considering where our relationship started (dated briefly in high school, didn't talk for five years due to me breaking his heart, both coming out of messy, long-term, on-again/off-again relationships), being long distance was almost a blessing. It allowed us to ease into each other, with plenty of space in the event that things didn't work out. At first my trips were pretty sporadic but eventually I realized how awesome he was and how happy we were together. By the end I was going out a minimum of once a month while he came home at least once a month. For his last semester I made an envelope for each day until graduation and gave them to him in a big Rubbermaid tote when he left. The envelopes held things like Little Debbie snacks, gum, and other inexpensive treats. Each Friday was a card with a message from me. It ended up being a lot of fun for both of us and it definitely made the time go faster. Being long distance also helped us develop better communication skills and a greater appreciation of the time we have together which has been invaluable with his current insane and constantly changing work schedule. So I emailed this to you, but I figured I”d post it as well.

The hubs and I were LD (four hours apart) for almost two years. Surprisingly, I actually enjoyed the drive. It was an opportunity to get some much needed alone time considering I was working a busy retail management job and living at home with my parents. I found it really relaxing. The Sunday afternoon drive home developed my interest in football! The additional freedom and extended college experience I got to have while visiting was great. Plus I had the added benefit of actually liking the guy on the other end.

Considering where our relationship started (dated briefly in high school, didn’t talk for five years due to me breaking his heart, both coming out of messy, long-term, on-again/off-again relationships), being long distance was almost a blessing. It allowed us to ease into each other, with plenty of space in the event that things didn’t work out. At first my trips were pretty sporadic but eventually I realized how awesome he was and how happy we were together. By the end I was going out a minimum of once a month while he came home at least once a month.

For his last semester I made an envelope for each day until graduation and gave them to him in a big Rubbermaid tote when he left. The envelopes held things like Little Debbie snacks, gum, and other inexpensive treats. Each Friday was a card with a message from me. It ended up being a lot of fun for both of us and it definitely made the time go faster.

Being long distance also helped us develop better communication skills and a greater appreciation of the time we have together which has been invaluable with his current insane and constantly changing work schedule.

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